Written by Katherine Moon
Whether it’s a Breakup or a Divorce – Sex with the Ex is a Bad Choice!
They say that breaking up is hard to do… and they say it for a reason. It can be a soul-crushing experience. Life has changed. Dramatically. What was once a partnership is now dead and you have to figure out who you are again. It’s a gut-wrenching life experience that everyone goes through in one form or another. The parting ways are sloppy and life is messy as both individuals now try to navigate their new lives.
A serious breakup is a major emotional rollercoaster. You and your partner will continue to communicate, although everything has really broken down in that department and you can no longer understand one another. Since most relationships begin with intense passion and lots of sex, it can seem normal to try and smooth things over with your former partner with sex. Maybe you’d like to get back together. Maybe it’s them who would like to work things out. So many emotions are involved. Somehow sex seems to be an answer as far too many couples engage in breakup sex.
But is it really a good idea?
When it comes to ending a relationship you’ve already been through the battles, the attempts to work through problems, and sometimes even couples therapy. If two people are coming from two completely different places and can no longer meet in the middle to agree… then sex isn’t going to fix anything. Once the relationship is over for one partner, it’s just over.
Having breakup sex can rejuvenate you in some manner. It’s sometimes angry sex or grudge fucking and that can magnify the experience. At the same time, it may leave you feeling emotionally depleted after. Sex causes us to release all of those feel-good hormones so there may be a brief cease-fire in the battle with your former partner. But logically it’s only temporary.
When you are trying to rebuild your life, you want to do the right things. You need to make the right choices for yourself and your family so that you are not putting anyone’s well-being at risk. This will also include your ex. When you are still carrying on an intimate relationship with your ex-partner, you will find that you may be setting either one of you up for a very big fall. This is not something that you should want for either of you.
Putting your life back together after a breakup is damn difficult but limiting communication with the ex is essential. So is making sure you never backstep and have sex again. You want to get out there are find out who you are and what your goals and dreams are in life. This is the only way that you can make your new life a huge success. This is going to be worth the self-control that you have when it comes to refraining from having sex with your ex.